Work-Life Balance is a Myth (here’s what I do instead)
At the start of every year, I notice the same wave of articles. Perhaps you do too. They promise that this will be the year you finally achieve work-life balance. If you adopt the right morning routine, the right productivity tool, the right habit stack, everything will fall into place. Work will flourish. Family will feel cared for. Your health will improve. You will somehow glide through it all with calm efficiency. I read those pieces and often admire them. They are usually well-intended and sometimes quite thoughtful. However, I read them as an operator, not as a spectator. From where I stand, something important is missing. Here is the harsh truth. Work-life balance, at least at meaningful levels of responsibility, is a myth. Not because balance is a bad idea. It is attractive for a reason. It suggests symmetry, stability, and equal weights on both sides of a scale. But once you are responsible not only for your own output but also for institutions, teams, capital, reputations, and decisions that carry consequences beyond your desk, life stops behaving like a balanced equation. Some weeks demand everything from you. Some months do. Sometimes family requires your full attention. Sometimes your health interrupts your plans. Sometimes a strategic decision cannot wait just because your calendar indicates it should. The mistake is not imbalance. Imbalance is inevitable. The mistake is allowing that imbalance to become accidental. For the past two years, I have stopped chasing balance. Instead, I have been building something else. A deliberate combination of systems that allows me to pursue coherence across a year rather than equilibrium within a day. It has not been elegant. It has not always been tidy. But it has been intentional. Whenever I’m asked how I handle work, family, making an impact, studying, side projects, and sometimes just taking a bit of rest, I always say that I don’t aim to balance everything perfectly. Instead, I focus on creating a sense of coherence in my life. Let me explain what I mean. I pursue coherence rather than balance. The concept of balance is attractive because it implies stability. A flat surface. Equal weights on either side of the scale.Work-life balance, remember? Executive life does not work that way. At any meaningful level of leadership, imbalance is the default; it is not a failure state. There are weeks (even months) when work dominates because it must. There are times when family demands full attention. Phases when health, study, or reflection cannot be postponed without consequence. The mistake is not an imbalance. The mistake is allowing the imbalance to become accidental. I focus on coherence over a year rather than equilibrium within a day. The question I ask is not whether every week feels balanced, but whether the year’s overall flow makes sense, whether effort, recovery, growth, and meaning are distributed intentionally rather than reactively. The tools I use are designed to enforce that coherence. As an Operator, my Flow is Operational. Flow, often described as being “in the zone”, is sometimes called a state of grace: intense focus, effortless engagement, time slipping away. That description is accurate but somewhat incomplete. My flow does not arrive unannounced. I engineer it. Flow reliably happens for me when four conditions intersect. One, the work must matter to me. Two, the work must be challenging enough to earn my respect. Three, I need to be skilled enough to handle it without panic; if not, I must pass it on. And four, it must connect to a broader MIG narrative, something that extends beyond the immediate task. When those conditions are met, depth follows. When they are not, no level of motivation can make up for it. I do not schedule flow optimistically but rather I schedule it defensively. Deep work blocks are reserved for strategy, writing, synthesis, and decisions that require original thought. Meetings, calls, and operational reviews are organised around that core, ensuring it remains protected. That is how I have been able to sustain my ongoing academic drive toward multiple postgraduate degrees, and I’m on my fourth unpublished manuscript. In practice, what I am saying is that I am protecting fewer hours, not more. But I am protecting them absolutely, so I can mine their output absolutely as well. My calendar is either a boundary or a confession If there is one artefact I own that reveals my priorities with brutal honesty, it would be my calendar. Executives often speak about values and intentions. Our calendars tell a clearer story. What is blocked. What is left open. What is endlessly rescheduled. What is never revisited. I block time not just for tasks, but for roles. There is a portion of my time dedicated to executive work, another to family, another to physical maintenance, another to academic study, and another to impact work and mentorship. I also protect time for exploration and unstructured thinking. The walls of my porch are proof enough, lined with notes and sketches from Friday evenings spent with music, decent food, the occasional drink, and long stretches of thought that run well into the night, or the next morning. Each category exists because, without deliberate allocation, it will be overshadowed by the most urgent voice in the room, which is almost always my work. Time blocking is about containment, not about rigidity. It prevents one domain from quietly expanding into others. It also enhances presence. When time is consciously allocated, guilt diminishes and attention becomes sharper. The Compression Principle There is a widely recognised, seldom-challenged principle: work expands to fill the time allotted to it. This principle is always active around me. My team knows, and I often emphasise that the earliest time to complete a task is ASAP. I just realised I didn’t fully explain to them why; many have said I “give pressure”, but the Compression Principle is why. I personally always compress deadlines aggressively where possible. Tasks that could take a day are given half a day. Half-day tasks are
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